reasons to stay unhappy

So, I've been reading these articles on being unhappy.. I don't remember exactly the search criteria that I used to start out with.. it was something about gaining happiness.. but instead I received back an article on reasons why people are unhappy... and so I've been doing research on that...

The reasons include things like, having no direction, living someone else's purpose, being afraid, eating a crappy diet, lacking gratitude, having poor relationships... and the more that I read, the more I wonder why I'm not perched on top of the building threatening to jump off... One article that I read said that refusing to leave the house (figuratively of course) and staying by yourself was a surefire way to become/stay unhappy...interesting..

so my thought on all of this is...what makes me unhappy? maybe if I define what makes me unhappy, I'll be able to figure out what might make me happy.. I'm grasping here, I know.. but if I defined the negative - acknowledged it, and then treated it for what it was - just another perspective - then maybe, possibly, I could make some serious attempts and turning things around...

here's a few to get you started:
- I hate my job. I never wanted to do what I'm doing in the first place - and I did it for 10 years.. now I'm doing it again.. I still hate it... I'm wondering why I even bothered going back to school if I ended up doing the same stupid thing (but now for less pay)
- I hate my financial situation. See the job problem.. See relationships/ex husband
- I hate my relationship situations. I really don't have any close friends.. I realize that this is a choice. I don't have a lover (also by choice), or a boyfriend (by choice), or really any people to hang out with on a regular basis... and even though those things are choices, they may not be the best choices. I think we all need people to share our lives with - in whatever capacity we need them...
- I hate dealing with my ex-husband. And I hate my kids having to deal with my ex-husband. I do.. I don't want to see/hear about/from him ever again... Yes I realize that there are sacrifices that I would have to make for that to come true.. but I think I'm willing to make them. The boys and I have suffered so much because of his actions, and because of our responses to his actions. Regardless, no one should have to put up with that.. even if we react positively...

I'm sure I'll write more later.
What do you think?